Wednesday, November 18, 2009

HUGE Oversight

We've had issues with different things with our past adoptions...but they were always BEFORE we got a referral. Though they were a pain during the process I'd always end up saying that obviously our baby wasn't ready.

With Braden we had SEVERAL setbacks and I couldn't imagine not having him!! One setback we had with him (that at the time was beyond ridiculous and now we laugh about) is that they thought Brian was a murderer. See, there was another Brian Barbour who had committed murder, and even though our Brian had a different DOB and social security number for some reason we had to stop everything to prove he wasn't the same person because they were from the same county. Anyway...because of that month long setback we got Braden...not a baby who was born the month before. There are a couple more things like that which happened with Braden's adoption too...but none with Kinsey.

Today we found out some horrible news about our adoption but what makes it horrible is that we already have a referral. We know who this baby is, love him, and want to get him home as soon as possible. I will not bring myself to think that it may not happen...but I do know that it will definitely delay him coming home. There is no way around that at this point. That makes me so sad! OUR baby is far away from us and bonding more and more each day with his foster family. I'm so mad at myself for not checking and re-checking to make sure something like this wouldn't happen. Basically we don't have I 600 approval...meaning that we don't have approval to bring a baby into the country. This happened because our homestudy was never sent in with our fingerprints to be approved. I'm not going to play the blame game on here, but I will say that with our past adoptions it's ALWAYS been the agency's job to mail it in. We've never had to do that so we didn't even think about it. In reading the timeline you can see we've had issues with our current agency...but this is HUGE! I am praying that it will get resolved quickly!

Brian was able to contact someone by email today and found out that if they could get an original signed copy of the homestudy then they could get things moving. The government is usually SO SLOW when it comes to things like this so we are praying that God will lead us to the right people so that we can keep Ephram...and bring him home. Brian just came all the way home from work (30 min each way) to pick up a signed copy of our homestudy in hopes that he could just bring it to where we did our fingerprints. Even though there was NO ONE waiting there and they were open they said they only take walk in's between 8:00-10:00am. Tomorrow morning he'll go over there and hopefully be led to someone who can help us. I'm praying that this will be a much better experience than last time (when we went for fingerprints).

As of now we are ok. HOWEVER, FCA will have to tell Korea that we can't accept the referral before long so we are praying that we can get our approval before that has to happen. We need a miracle!

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